Aug 29, 2018
Srsly. Trying to change your net worth through a business side hustle as a parent is about as mind exploding as it comes. I love my kids. Kids if you are reading this after I am long gone, please know I had nothing but love for you. However, trying to also build a life where I am the most present in your life has been something I need to seek guidance for, gives me tears at night and makes me sad when I see you grew another inch.
I follow many people who I feel demonstrate this well (Rachel Hollis, Peta Kelly, Carol Chamberlain (mom), April Seifert - follow them). I remember being a kid and watching my mom go to work. I only remember one weird daycare situation where I wanted her there stat but that is because I licked the community peanut butter knife that was being passed around which I got in trouble for and I thought mandatory naps was a lame rule. Overall, I don't really remember daycare or being away from her sucking. I do remember her getting up early, leaving the house before me sometimes when I was school aged. I remember walking to school with my brothers, feeling independent for doing so. I remember her white lab coat and her perfect smell and her lipstick. She has thin lips like me and she always wore pretty make up and lipstick and does to this day. I remember her hair being done and her jewelry being obnoxious (it still is mom and I love you for it). I remember a mom that hustled to provide for her family. I remember a Proverbs 31 woman.
Here is the point.
I don't remember feeling stressed that my mom worked. I don't remember feeling robbed. I only remember good things so all of us moms who think that we suck at this mom/working mom/side hustle/net worth growing life... STOP. Just stop. You are fine. Your kids probably don't remember things like you do. Natalee Champlin has a podcast episode interviewing one of the only female private jet dealers, Rene Bangelsdorf and she talks about how your kids don't have to have all of your day. They actually might benefit themselves with a little time away from your cra cra.
The one thing I have learned as a mom who was managing a job, a business and being a mom to 3 kids simultaneously is that time HAS to feel and move differently for me. I love all my single friends but there is a super power time warp skill that happens when you become a parent. I always joke that if you asked me before kids if I would ever agree to get up every 45 minutes throughout the night and let something pinch my nipples for 45 minutes I would have punched you in the face. And then I had kids. Guess what? THEY ACTUALLY DO THAT.
So how does a mom do it? I recently read the book The Big Leap and learned about Einstein time and then spent a few weeks obsessed with the theory of relativity. This is the Einstein theory that time and space are not what we think of them as. They are more flexible. More relative. So if I am going to DO IT ALL, or ALL THE THINGS as people say now, I have to view time differently. I have to perceive it differently and learn to work in my best times. I found this moved the needle further in my business, commute, bedtime routines, morning rituals, podcast uploading, team meetings and even when I meet with potential customers who reject me.
Speaking of Einstein, did you know he was practically unemployable and took crap jobs in the meantime of finding his passion and true calling? One of his first jobs was working with patent applications. Can you picture a sheer genius doing mind numbing paperwork all day? He did what he had to do in order to pay bills, eat and live. So never underestimate yourself or your dreams because you are doing both a side hustle and job. A smart person would built it in the pockets of their life and take smart risk. We have heard this time and time again on the podcast in episodes 4, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 13, 14, 16, 21, 23. See a pattern? Be proud of that job while you build a hustle. That means you are an extraordinary human who can master Einstein time.